The truth is in fact alarming. Let’s be clear: sex without consequence simply does not exist. Dr. Brian Clowes, co-author of “The Case against Condoms,” poses the important question: “If condoms were so effective at preventing pregnancy and AIDS transmission, why do nations that stress their use continue to experience a rapidly-escalating rate of teen pregnancies and an exploding AIDS epidemic?” Truth and experience shows that it’s actually contributing to the crisis.
And what about the highly acclaimed birth control pill? This too has also been shown to have devastating consequences for its users. Sadly, most women on the pill are only aware of one of its mechanisms – that it suppresses ovulation. In reality, the pill has three other important mechanisms unknown to most women: that it manipulates the fallopian tubes delaying the arrival of the ovum, that it causes the cervical mucus to become thicker inhibiting the arrival of the sperm, and it causes alterations to the lining of the womb, preventing implantation. In all three of these largely unknown scenarios, ovulation has in fact occurred. In the last, there is even the existence of an actual embryo that is unable to implant itself in the uterine wall.
Conclusion? Both condoms and oral contraceptives carry with them the possibility of ineffectiveness and failure that leads to the even more heart-breaking decision making that accompanies unplanned pregnancies. Some will tell you that it’s alarming that young people aren’t being offered contraceptives, but don’t they have a right to know the whole truth concerning its “effectiveness” and consequences?
Apart from the truth about contraception, people should also be told about all the brain chemistry that goes on when someone decides to engage in “casual sex.” Even if there is no STD or unplanned pregnancy, sexual intercourse has serious effects on the developing brain of a young person. During the marital act, hormones such as dopamine endorphins, oxytocin (in women), and vasopressin (in men) are released that are meant to increase bonding during the act. Outside the context of a safe and committed one-person relationship (aka marriage), frequent sexual intercourse has been shown to lead to repeated bad behavior and countless other uncommitted relationships. When there’s commitment, and the only true commitment is in marriage, the bonding matures, leading to a long-lasting healthy relationship.