Code of Amiability

This is Teresa Quevedo's "Code of Amiability" found on the back of a picture of Our Lady with the Child Jesus in her arms.

The virtue of amiability results from the fusion of several strong virtues. It is the 'all things to all men' that grows out of charity: the knowledge of self that humility teaches; the pure detachment found in mortification; the meekness born of patience; and the undaunted courage won of perseverance... The Code of Amiability obliges one:

1. To smile until a kindly smile forms readily on your lips.

2. To repress any sign of impatience at the very start.

3. To add a word of benevolence (goodness) when giving orders.

4. To reply positively when asked to do a favor.

5. To lend a helping hand to the unfortunate.

6. To please those toward whom one feels repugnance.

7. To study and satisfy the tastes of those you live with.

8. To respect everyone. 

9. To avoid complaining. 

10. To correct others, if you must, with kindness.


These are the dispositions which union with the amiable Virgin (Mary) will place in our heart."